Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari, SunniPath Academy Teacher
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Praise be to Allah. May the peace and blessings of Allah shower upon our Beloved Messenger, his family, companions, and those who follow them.
I'm glad that you are trying to put the best construction on the matter. Although your father's advice may not have worked out in the past, it doesn't mean that his advice is never valid. Our parents may not be right all the time, but they certainly deserve our love, respect, and obedience. It really does look like your father is trying to help you. But you must also help yourself. You mention that you are depressed. What are you doing to deal with this? I think it would be a good idea to seek help for your depression. I don't know how long you've suffered from depression, or how chronic it is, but it may be a good idea to seek the help of a licensed therapist.
You also spoke of being confused about your religion. Now is as good a time as ever to try to mitigate some of that confusion. By all means, seek out of the company of righteous, knowledgeable Muslims who can help you. Even if you start off with something basic like learning your prayers or reading the Quran, Allah willing, this will be of benefit to you in the short and long term.
I think it would be a good idea to give your father's advice a chance to see if it works. And you also need to take steps to pull yourself out of despair. Don't turn your back on Allah, because He is there for you. Don't be angry at Allah. He is giving you an opportunity to find Him.
Please seek the counsel of a scholar or imam with whom you can discuss your situation further.
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And Allah alone gives success.
- Umm Salah (Zaynab Ansari)
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