Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate
May His blessings and peace be on His Beloved Prophet, the best of creation, and his family, companions, and followers
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
If you are in the same town, it is your right to visit them (or them visit you, for a 'reasonable visit') once a week. Your husband does not have the right to stop you in this. [Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar; Ibn al-Humam, Fath al-Qadir]
Note, however, that the way to deal with marital problems is not law but love: when it comes down to law, with each sticking to millimetric measurement of their rights, marriages fail, as rarely does any love and affection remain.
With love, even major differences become minor.
As such, one should be aware of one's rights (such as the fact that one is not obliged to serve the husband's family members, but merely to treat them with respect), but go about ensuring them with the Qur'anic paradigm for marital success: "And He has placed love and mercy between them."
Wassalam,
Faraz Rabbani
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