Answered by Shaykh Abdurrahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
Assalamu alaykum
In he name of Allah the Inspirer of truth.
Your husband needs to give sufficient time to you as this is your right. You may speak to him about this, and discuss the consequences of his action, i.e. your frustration, estrangement, possible break up, etc, and mention to him the following hadith.
"Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Al-'As relates:
Allah's Apostle said to me, "O 'Abdullah! Have I not been informed that you fast during the day and offer prayers all the night." 'Abdullah replied, "Yes, O Allah's Apostle!" The Prophet said, "Don't do that; fast for few days and then give it up for few days, offer prayers and also sleep at night, as your body has a right on you, and your wife has a right on you, and your guest has a right on you. And it is sufficient for you to fast three days in a month, as the reward of a good deed is multiplied ten times, so it will be like fasting throughout the year." I insisted (on fasting) and so I was given a hard instruction. I said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have power." The Prophet said, "Fast like the fasting of the Prophet David and do not fast more than that." I said, "How was the fasting of the Prophet of Allah, David?" He said, "Half of the year," (i.e. he used to fast on every alternate day).
Afterwards when 'Abdullah became old, he used to say, "It would have been better for me if I had accepted the permission of the Prophet (which he gave me i.e. to fast only three days a month)."
If this is not sufficient then you may want to speak with the amir of the tablighi jamaat in your area about this problem. He should be able to talk with your husband and solve the problem for you, insha Allah.
Wassalam
Abdurrahman ibn Yusuf
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